Super Attractor

Have you ever wondered why some people seem to glide through life, effortlessly attracting opportunities, relationships, and abundance, while others push and struggle with little result? In Super Attractor: Methods for Manifesting a Life Beyond Your Wildest Dreams, Gabrielle Bernstein argues that the missing ingredient is energetic alignment with the Universe. When your thoughts and emotions harmonize with love rather than fear, you tap into a creative force that not only supports your desires but multiplies their impact. Bernstein contends that becoming a Super Attractor isn’t about hustling harder or mastering another productivity hack—it’s about surrendering to the Universal flow of well-being and learning to let life work for you, not against you.

Across more than a decade of teaching and living spiritual principles, Bernstein has distilled a step-by-step journey for anyone ready to manifest a life of ease, freedom, and joy. The book draws from her personal experiences—including recovery from addiction, business transformation, fertility struggles, and motherhood—and from spiritual philosophies like A Course in Miracles and the teachings of Abraham-Hicks. Each chapter introduces tools to move from fear and control to faith and alignment. These aren’t abstract theories; Bernstein’s methods have been tested through her own life’s messiest moments and by thousands of students she’s guided through her workshops and masterclasses.

The Core Promise: Feel Good to Attract Good

At the heart of the book lies a simple but radical proposition: you attract what you are, not necessarily what you want. As Wayne Dyer once said, “You do not attract what you want; you attract what you are.” Bernstein builds on this, teaching that your emotional vibration—your dominant energy—acts as a communication signal to the Universe. When you’re aligned with love, gratitude, joy, and trust, you become magnetic to experiences that match these frequencies. Conversely, when you live in lack, fear, or judgment, those energies ripple outward and return in kind. The shift begins not with outer action but with inner transformation: changing your thoughts, forgiving yourself, and cultivating faith.

She offers readers both insight and practice, marrying spirituality and psychology. It’s not about forcing positivity but about choosing again whenever fear dominates—one thought, one feeling, one moment at a time. This is where Bernstein’s energetic spirituality meets cognitive habit formation: the awareness of your vibration and conscious redirection of it.

The Roadmap to Becoming a Super Attractor

The book unfolds as a spiritual progression. It begins by teaching readers how to notice misalignment and forgive themselves. From there, you learn to shift from fear to joy (“It’s Good to Feel Good”), overcome scarcity and comparison (“There’s More Than Enough to Go Around”), and find your way back to happiness through service, boundaries, and appreciation. Each practice builds on the last, making alignment a lifestyle rather than an episodic practice.

• Chapter 1, The Universe Always Delivers: introduces the “Choose Again Method” to shift from negative to positive vibrations.
• Chapters 2–3 unpack emotional freedom from fear, lack, comparison, and competition—the biggest blocks to attraction.
• Chapters 4–6 explore joy, intuition, and connection to invisible guidance and spirit guides for deeper alignment.
• Later chapters introduce practical manifestation methods like the Spiritually Aligned Action Method and the Universal Abundance Method, designed to synchronize your outer life with inner faith.

Bernstein’s guidance is profoundly experiential. She invites readers to test the principles themselves—by noticing how a moment of joy brings synchronicities faster than hours of stress, or how releasing control opens up paths you couldn’t have logically planned. Her personal anecdotes—from healing her fertility journey through surrender to manifesting major opportunities like speaking at Oprah’s SuperSoul Sessions—anchor these ideas in the real world.

Why These Ideas Matter Today

In a culture addicted to control and achievement, Bernstein’s philosophy of doing less and attracting more feels both liberating and provocative. The book directly challenges the myth that hard work is the only path to success. It argues that ease is not laziness; it’s alignment. When you align emotionally with love and service, you don’t stop taking action—you take spiritually aligned action that flows naturally and efficiently. This reframing offers a deeply needed counterpoint to burnout culture, inviting us to build lives defined by joy rather than stress.

Ultimately, Super Attractor is about remembering our natural state of abundance and connection. Bernstein presents spirituality not as dogma but as practice—a daily alignment with a loving Universe that’s already conspiring in your favor. By the end, she promises, you’ll stop chasing happiness and start realizing that you’ve been supported all along.

Core takeaway

You are always manifesting—through every thought, emotion, and intention. The work is not to push harder but to align deeper. The moment you return to joy, faith, and love, the Universe meets you halfway.

Gabrielle Bernstein opens her journey by reminding readers that the Universe is always listening and responding to our energy. Every thought, emotion, and belief we hold sends out a signal, and the Universe answers with experiences that match that frequency. This means that even our worries, fears, and control issues are forms of manifestation—they simply attract more fear, worry, and struggle. Her first principle is deceptively simple: awareness creates shift.

The Choose Again Method

Bernstein introduces a foundational practice—what she calls the Choose Again Method. It’s a three-step process to break the grip of fear and consciously redirect energy toward love: (1) Notice the thought, (2) Forgive the thought, and (3) Choose again. She illustrates this with real examples, such as confronting her own controlling behavior during a stressful book launch. By pausing to notice her thought (“If I don’t do it, no one else will”), forgiving herself for it, and deliberately choosing a better-feeling perspective (“I’m supported, and things can unfold naturally”), she shifted from chaos to ease almost instantly.

This process becomes a daily spiritual intervention. It’s not about suppressing negativity but transforming it—making space for new outcomes by changing inner alignment. (The technique parallels ideas from Eckhart Tolle’s The Power of Now, emphasizing present-moment awareness as the doorway to peace.)

Forgiveness as an Energetic Reset

Forgiveness underlies the entire method. Bernstein notes that when you forgive yourself for fear or misalignment, you literally free the energy that was trapped in guilt or judgment. The moment you let go, the Universe can step in. She recalls her early recovery from addiction, when her mentor taught her to pray instead of “white-knuckling” sobriety. By surrendering each moment of temptation to a higher power, she realigned her energy from control to faith—a shift that became the cornerstone of her teaching.

Beginning Each Day in Alignment

To help maintain this energetic alignment, Bernstein offers a set of morning mantras designed to direct the mind before daily distractions take over: affirmations like “My day unfolds with ease,” or “I am open to receiving greatness.” The goal isn’t motivational pep talk—it’s calibration. The moment you wake up, you can either tune into love or into anxiety. These short declarations become anchors that strengthen faith, quiet fear, and broadcast a clear message to the Universe.

“There is only a stream of Well-Being that flows,” she quotes Abraham-Hicks. “You can allow it or resist it, but it flows just the same.” The choice is always yours—to align with the stream or push against it.

This opening chapter sets the stage for the book’s central theme: the Universe never stops delivering—it simply mirrors your vibration. Your work is not to force outcomes but to align your emotions so that what you receive matches what you truly want.

In Chapter 2, “It’s Good to Feel Good,” Bernstein flips a deeply ingrained cultural script: struggle isn’t noble—it’s resistance. For many people, joy feels unsafe because they’ve learned to equate effort and suffering with success. Bernstein argues that to become a Super Attractor, you must unlearn this conditioning and permit yourself to feel joy without guilt. Positive emotion isn’t the reward for success; it’s the precondition for it.

The Fear of Ease

Bernstein confesses that even after years as a spiritual teacher, she battled a deep belief that ease meant losing control. Raised on the mantra “If I don’t do it, no one else will,” she overworked until her body and relationships began to break down. Only after collapsing under this need to prove her worth did she realize that her fear of letting go was blocking Universal support. Her healing began with one intuitive message scribbled in her journal: “Pay attention to the places where you feel supported.” That simple focus on existing support increased her sense of trust and allowed abundance to multiply.

The Think It to Feel It Method

To reprogram emotional energy, she introduces the Think It to Feel It Method. The idea: when joy feels out of reach, borrow it from memory or observation. You might recall a moment when you felt confident or think about someone who embodies the calm you desire. By mentally recreating that state, your body mirrors the emotion—as neuroscience has shown through mirror neurons (a principle also found in Joe Dispenza’s Becoming Supernatural).

For instance, Bernstein imagined herself feeling relaxed like her friend Elisa, who exuded calm even in chaos. By meditating on that feeling daily, Gabrielle rewired her nervous system for peace and began attracting the exact support she’d felt was missing.

Joy as a Spiritual Discipline

Bernstein closes this lesson with a call to make joy nonnegotiable. Schedule fun. Watch your words. Avoid gossip and comparison. Happiness, she insists, isn’t circumstantial—it’s a muscle. You develop it by using it. “Feeling good must come first,” she repeats, “everything else follows.” This perspective aligns with positive psychology (as in The How of Happiness by Sonja Lyubomirsky) but roots it in metaphysical law: good-feeling emotions signal to the Universe that you’re open to receiving.

Feeling good isn’t self-indulgence; it’s self-responsibility. The stronger your joy, the stronger your attracting power. This realization reframes spirituality from penance into permission—to relax, to laugh, to trust, and to co-create miracles.

In “There’s More Than Enough to Go Around,” Bernstein dives deep into the seven most common mental and energetic blocks that stop people from becoming Super Attractors. These blocks—belief in lack, comparison, competition, fear of rejection, need for more, fear of judgment, and attachment to outcomes—create resistance that repels the very abundance we desire. She blends spiritual insight with down-to-earth examples drawn from her Spirit Junkie Masterclass coaching students.

Recognizing the Seven Blocks

• Believing in lack: The mindset of “I’m not enough” or “There’s never enough” keeps you in survival energy.
• Comparison and competition drain power, turning creativity into envy.
• Fear of rejection or judgment restricts authentic expression.
• The “need-more” mentality creates a treadmill of perpetual dissatisfaction.

Bernstein relates these blocks to her earlier struggles with jealousy of other authors and control over her career. Each time she focused on someone else’s success, she unconsciously told the Universe, “I don’t have that.” The result: delayed manifestations and burnout. But when she shifted to celebration—cheering on friends who succeeded—her energy changed to attraction and joy.

The Universal Abundance Method

To dissolve scarcity, Bernstein designed the Universal Abundance Method, composed of four pivotal practices: protect your desires, focus on giving rather than getting, want more for others, and do what brings you joy. She offers vivid case studies, like her student Stephanie, who felt deflated when only one person attended her workshop. Instead of walking away, Stephanie decided to “teach for one” and poured her heart into service. That single act of generosity transformed her career—proof, Bernstein says, that energy of giving always multiplies.

The practice of “wanting more for others” also reprograms envy into empowerment. Bernstein recounts choosing to celebrate pregnant friends during her three-year fertility struggle; when she did, her own motherhood manifested with grace. Celebrating others is magnetic.

This chapter reframes abundance as an energy state, not a condition of possessions. The more joy, generosity, and gratitude you embody, the more evidence you’ll see that there’s truly more than enough to go around.

Bernstein insists that joy isn’t just the destination—it’s the vehicle. “Have Fun Along the Way” teaches readers how to climb the emotional ladder from despair to joy through play, humor, and engagement. The lesson is grounded in Abraham-Hicks’s Emotional Guidance Scale, which charts emotions from fear at the bottom to love and freedom at the top.

Climbing the Emotional Scale

The trick, Bernstein says, is not to force yourself from sadness to bliss instantly—it’s to reach for the next better-feeling thought. She illustrates this beautifully with the story of Jack, a nine-year-old who didn’t make the “majors” baseball team. Jack spiraled from despair to envy to anger, before slowly climbing toward boredom, then passion about cars during a car ride. His emotional tone lifted naturally as his focus shifted. In that subtle progression—from sadness to small joy—Jack demonstrated emotional mastery that many adults spend years chasing.

The goal is to let tiny upward movements—relief, contentment, curiosity—be enough. Joy is self-perpetuating once it gains momentum. “Distraction is the fastest way back into alignment,” Bernstein writes, echoing mindfulness teachers who view focused attention as the antidote to suffering.

The Art of Play and Service

Fun isn’t frivolous—it opens spiritual flow. Bernstein describes how acts of service or creative play (such as her playful Instagram “Gabby Cooking Show”) become portals to inspiration. Approaching life as play signals trust and allows spontaneous manifestations. Whether it’s cooking, walking, or laughing with strangers, joy raises your frequency higher than hours of hard work ever could.

Joy as Alignment Practice

To sustain high vibes, she urges practical habits: smile at people, take gratitude walks, or measure success by fun rather than metrics. When you feel good, others around you calibrate to your energy. “Carry a flashlight,” she tells readers—be the light rather than mirror others’ darkness. This reflects Marianne Williamson’s teaching that shining your light gives others permission to do the same.

Fun, then, becomes medicine for fear. It’s how you soften resistance, magnetize your desires, and remember that you are already whole. The Universe is playful—and life responds best when you are too.

In one of the book’s most metaphysical chapters, “Invisible Guidance Is Available to You,” Bernstein embraces a spiritual truth often left unspoken: you are never alone. The Universe expresses itself through guides, angels, and ancestors who operate beyond the physical world but can communicate through intuition, signs, and synchronicities. For Bernstein, this isn’t metaphor—it’s lived experience.

Meeting the Guides

She recounts numerous encounters: a friend’s guidance from deceased mentor Wayne Dyer, her own connection with her grandmother “Grammy,” and a friend named Lauren who communicates through books and dreams. These stories make the unseen feel surprisingly relatable. When her grandmother passed, Bernstein received a card reading “Grandmother ensures safe crossing” the very day she asked for a sign—an affirmation that love transcends form.

From Archangel Michael’s protection to Gabriel’s assistance with communication and conception, Bernstein introduces readers to specific archangels and their roles. Though mystical, she grounds this in practicality: if you resonate with an angel or ancestor, call upon them using a clear, heart-centered request such as “Thank you, guides of the highest truth and compassion, for revealing what I need to know.”

The Practice of Asking and Receiving

The golden rule: guides cannot interfere without your invitation. Asking is essential; gratitude seals the request. Bernstein also suggests journaling messages that emerge after meditation—a practice known as automatic writing. The language that flows, she says, is often wiser than your conscious mind, revealing that you’re channeling a higher wisdom.

Faith Through Dialogue

Skeptical readers may view this as imagination, but Bernstein reframes that skepticism: even if guides are psychological archetypes, communicating with them activates intuition—the bridge between fear and faith. Much like Julia Cameron’s The Artist’s Way uses “morning pages” for creative connection, her spiritual journaling opens a dialogue that strengthens trust in the Universe.

Ultimately, this chapter expands manifestation from mind-set to mysticism. The lesson is simple: spiritual support is always available; you only need the willingness to listen.

Midway through the book, Bernstein delivers perhaps her most countercultural insight: effort doesn’t equal alignment. In “Do Less and Attract More,” she dismantles the illusion that control brings safety. The truth, she insists, is the opposite—the more you push, the more you resist the natural flow of guidance.

Letting Spirit Take the Wheel

The premise echoes one of her mentors, Wayne Dyer: when you’re in spirit, you are inspired. Bernstein tells how, before speaking at Oprah’s SuperSoul Sessions, she prayed to Dyer’s spirit for calm. His presence instantly grounded her, replacing anxiety with peace. On stage, she felt words flow effortlessly—proof that surrender invites wisdom beyond your intellect.

The Practice of Surrender

Prayer and meditation become the new form of productivity. She proposes a simple daily invocation: “Thank you, guide of the highest truth and compassion, for revealing your presence to me.” Through prayer you ask; through meditation you listen. Together they create a space where creative solutions arise naturally rather than from overthinking.

Relying on a Higher Power

Bernstein clarifies that surrender isn’t passivity—it’s co-creation. You still act, but your actions flow from intuitive guidance instead of egoic force. This distinction mirrors Taoist principles seen in Lao Tzu’s Tao Te Ching: the softest way often overcomes the strongest obstacle. With practice, “doing less” becomes allowing more—a habit that rewires nervous tension into peace.

Your ultimate task is faith: to trust that alignment is enough. When you let the Universe take the wheel, you exchange anxiety for clarity, control for ease. And paradoxically, you get more done than hustle ever could.

In the culminating chapters, Bernstein’s personal story of conceiving her son becomes a metaphor for faith in divine timing. “Let the Universe Catch Up with Your Dreams” recounts her years-long fertility struggle transformed by surrender. After multiple disappointments, she sat in meditation and asked for a sign. Two wild turkeys appeared outside her window—symbols of fertility in spiritual tradition. That moment of awe restored her trust, illustrating her core message: the Universe delivers when you release your deadline.

Faith as a Daily Choice

Bernstein describes faith not as blind optimism but as a repeated choice to align with love despite appearances. Each time fear resurfaces, you can ask for signs, speak directly to your guides, or—most powerfully—do nothing and allow clarity to emerge. This “practice of noninterference” quiets the ego’s compulsion to control outcomes.

Letting the Universe Catch Up

Through her story, Bernstein learned patience as an act of faith. Her son arrived at the perfect time—for her body, her marriage, her emotional readiness. What once felt like delay revealed itself as protection. This realization echoes teachings from spiritual classics like The Surrender Experiment (Michael A. Singer), emphasizing that timing aligns once resistance subsides.

Faith Beyond Fear

The book ends where it began: fear as guide back to love. In “Unwavering Faith in the Universe,” Bernstein shows that even fear can serve as feedback—an alarm that realignment is needed. With tools like journaling, Daily Design (envisioning your day’s feelings), and nonresistance, you create a “baseline of joy” that no setback can shake. When aligned, you no longer beg for miracles—you expect them.

Through pregnancy, surrender, and motherhood, Bernstein embodies her message: Living as a Super Attractor is not about perfection—it’s about faith that works even when you forget. The Universe always catches up when you let it.